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Dealing with rejection

Sometimes the edges prune themselves.

When you’ve been rejected, it is much too easy to turn the focus on where you went wrong, what you could have done differently.

‘I should have seen the signs.’

‘I shouldn’t have trusted them in the first place.’

‘I should have tried harder.’

Should have, shouldn’t have. That’s the thing, rejection is already in the past.

What’s done is done. No point crying over spilled milk.

And when it comes to rejection, you’re simply pruning the edges. Or, you could say, rejection is someone pruning the edges for you. That’s one decision you didn’t need to make.

Then once the edge is pruned, we can get back to what it was we were originally planning on doing.

The milk is spilled already. Nothing to cry over. Pick yourself up, and move on.

Tim Bunting Kiwi Yamabushi

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Hi, I’m Tim Bunting AKA the Kiwi Yamabushi, a New Zealander who became a Yamabushi Ascetic in the Dewa Sanzan mountains of north Japan. I’m part of the Yamabushido team, and we host life-altering Yamabushi training on the Dewa Sanzan (website link). People come to us for the ultimate mindfulness experience, to reach the next level, or simply connect with nature and themselves.


I’m on a mission to summit all 100 Famous Mountains of Yamagata Prefecture to spread the splendour of this fabulous location, and in dedication to all those who lost their lives out in nature, including my father.


On my daily blog I post thoughts of a practicing Yamabushi that I hope people can use to better themselves and live as fulfilling a life as possible.


Sign up to the weekly Mountains of Wisdom newsletter, follow me on social (Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, Twitter, TikTok, Clubhouse, all @kiwiyamabushi), or send me an email via the link below to stay in touch.


Tim.

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