Why you should default to ‘Everyone is a good person with good intentions’
Even after being burned more than once by people who it seems are just bad people after all, I still believe the default should be everyone is a good person with good intentions.
When you interact with people in this way, you have their best interests at heart, and it’s mutually beneficial for both. In most cases this is a win-win.
The problem lies in the people who don’t have this predisposition. How do you weed them out?
Still default to everyone is a good person with good intentions, but have more of a vetting process on your behalf. Only let them into your inner circle when you feel you have grasped who they are as a person.
While there may still be cracks, it’s much better than the opposite, being on the alert for everyone you come across. Not only will you tire from the effort to do so, people will see you in a different light and treat you suspiciously.
That’s why it’s best to default to everyone is a good person with good intentions.
If you want an excellent book on this, I highly recommend Malcolm Gladwell’s Talking to Strangers.
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Hi, I’m Tim Bunting AKA the Kiwi Yamabushi, a New Zealander who became a Yamabushi Ascetic in the Dewa Sanzan mountains of north Japan. I’m part of the Yamabushido team, and we host life-altering Yamabushi training on the Dewa Sanzan (website link). People come to us for the ultimate mindfulness experience, to reach the next level, or simply connect with nature and themselves.
I’m on a mission to summit all 100 Famous Mountains of Yamagata Prefecture to spread the splendour of this fabulous location, and in dedication to all those who lost their lives out in nature, including my father.
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