When the listeners stop listening.
Naturally I think I am a listener. Well, I know it to be true. I’m not one to want to dominate conversation. Part of this is because I find it hard to put my thinking into words quick enough, and some people lose patience, namely those who want to dominate the conversation. But then you get people who do give you the time to talk, and that’s the best.
I don’t actually have much to say, depending on the topic, and I think I also prefer other people talking because I could learn something new. The problem is when I get bored, such as when people make everything about themselves. That’s when the listeners stop listening. That’s when you know you have to shut up. Some people take a long time to realise this, some people never do.
I’m always watching other people for clues on how they’re reacting to stimulus. Be it words or maybe something going on. I always try to make the conversation something worth talking about. But I’m ok if there’s nothing to talk about and the conversation goes silent. Some people aren’t. Those people need to learn patience.
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Hi, I’m Tim Bunting AKA the Kiwi Yamabushi, a New Zealander who became a Yamabushi Ascetic in the Dewa Sanzan mountains of north Japan. I’m part of the Yamabushido team, and we host life-altering Yamabushi training on the Dewa Sanzan (website link). People come to us for the ultimate mindfulness experience, to reach the next level, or simply connect with nature and themselves.
I’m on a mission to summit all 100 Famous Mountains of Yamagata Prefecture to spread the splendour of this fabulous location, and in dedication to all those who lost their lives out in nature, including my father.
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